Maintaining a good relationship with your partner requires dedication. Relationships can be strained due to issues with finances, parenting, communication, emotional or sexual intimacy, trust, fidelity and chronic illness. Unresolved issues increase tension, cause resentment and can lead to unhealthy ways of coping, which further jeopardize a relationship. Psychological problems such as depression or anxiety can also develop. Intervention in the form of relationship therapy is sometimes necessary to help relationships that are failing and to build deeper understanding and intimacy between two individuals. Relationship therapy also includes family therapy, which focuses on members of a family; for example children who are affected by a tense relationship between their parents.
Therapy must be sought before discontent and ill feelings intensify. You can seek advice individually, implementing what you have learnt into your relationship, or as a couple. Your therapist uses an individualized approach to your particular situation. Therapy focuses mainly on good communication and dealing with problems without avoidance or getting into heated arguments. The focus is the relationship, and not who is wrong or right; your therapist will not take sides. Your therapist doesn’t work with the intention of saving the relationship, but will help you create goals for your relationship and help you understand your role in achieving them. Relationship therapy requires active participation from you and your spouse.
Therapy usually involves weekly sessions but added sessions, group sessions and individual sessions with either you or your spouse may be necessary. Healing a damaged relationship can take time, but is possible through therapy as long as both of you remain committed.